In a recent article with Ariana Huffington in the Summer 2014 issue of Porter she says, "I realized that while it's never a convenient time to change your life, it's always the right time to change your life." I read this article on a quick trip flight to the West Coast a couple weeks ago. The article highlights 5 milestones in her life as a woman who loves her role in her work, family and as a mom. The article made my thoughts stir, exploring the ideas of who you are and how you engage with the world.
I found some fascinating research on shame resilience and parenting that states who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how children will do, than what you know about parenting. Now, you know this isn't a parenting blog, but recently I've been obsessed with reading articles and research on parenting and how we can change/better our behaviors to improve the future outcomes of our children. It's sort of been blowing my mind. Really been blowing my mind, actually. If how we engage with the world is a strong predictor of how children do, than are you making the big decisions in your day to day with your heart and the small ones with your head?
From experience, I observed that as you "engage" in any work that changes your life, which takes commitment and consistency, the health and healing of women accelerates. It is not effortless work, but it is more simple than we make it.
Here's the deal. According to Ariana Huffington's interview, being a busy, influential women and working moms ran her into the ground until she was ready to do a 360 in the way she lived her life. It was the day that CAT and MRI scans told her nothing medically was wrong, after she woke up in a pool of her own blood, but made her realize that, "everything else was wrong."
That day, Ariana Huffington made a big choice and it was a heart choice.
You make these big heart choices for your children, ultimately, but for yourself first. You do it so you can enjoy life together and thrive (hence, the name of her newest and NYT bestseller). At the recent Thrive Conference, Ariana quoted, "Mindfulness is also Heartfulness." If you want to live with more fulfillment, breathing space and a deeper perspective, it's the best way to go.
Being the month of Moms (and the month to address integration as we grow from Spring to Summer) ask yourself the deep question, "Where do I need to audit my life?" What are some goals/intentions you need to evaluate in your life that only have to do with you and will bring you more breathing space? If you're feeling brave, leave your thoughts in the comments below.
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